What is love? Selfish desire..
No but seriously “what is love” because apparently ya girl ain’t doing it right. To want love is one thing and to understand is another. I feel as though there are so many phases of love we encounter on a daily basis that sometimes we may not always know exactly how to cherish, respond nor appreciate this genuine emotion. Love isn’t easy but its not made to be hard, love takes time and love is really, really beautiful when not rushed. As human when we come to surface with something that’s hard to identify we quickly fall back without addressing the issue. Usually when a commitment is involved a bond comes out of it, allowing some type of base ground were both parties agree to learn, teach and grow with one another. This is where the foundation usually begins.
Within this process communication and security are vital to another, its like it goes together hand in hand. Once someone feels out place something going left SPEAK UP share these feelings or at least try to, come directly to your partner and get it off your chest. Now that these concerns are in the air, as a couple you then decide and figure out what’s best for you moving forward. Keep in mind when you keep these concerns to yourself there’s no growth, you wont see change or any difference and you’ll it continue. Your partner deserve to know, how do you expect progress ? In order for them to make that change to become better for you and themselves, you need to talk. ( calmly of course)
SECURE me , make me feel comfortable, invite me into your space teach me what moves you, explain to me your way of doing and seeing things. Engage in community style outings, introduce me to your friends ( in time) tell me about your business/career. Leaving out the little details are the important detail. Matter of fact EVERY detail is important.
“Great things take time”
I cannot stress how much I adore this quote and apply to every aspect and inch of my life. When referring to love in an intimate relationship, to me it definitely emphasizes time and patience. In order to love someone else correctly you have to give the proper amount and attention to yourself, your needs and your wants. Pretty much proclaim yourself love. With that being said this goes back to that bond, reassure that “we” are a work in progress. Try to remember you all may not always agree, there will be a lot of disappoint as well as forgiveness and we not perfect…Nobody is.
DISCLAMIER:
Being selfish in a relationship will get you to very hurtful place, if not internally then externally. Be careful who choose to invite into your space, be wise with your time. You know exactly what you want when you want and before you make the final decision as to what you really want to do, take everything in consideration i.e your head space, living situation , your current attitude and focus on life. Try to really understand what door you’re about to open with WHO and be considerate to others time/feelings.
